When choosing from so many beautiful ladies in Chnlove Club, gentleman members inevitably have to turn down a few ladies that they consider unsuitable for them, before finding their perfect match. So how can you minimize the hurt and losing face problems when rejecting a lady? Here are a few tips.
Be honest and tactful when turning down a Chnlove Club lady
Just be honest with her. She’ll be upset of course, but your honesty will give her face, and she’ll respect that if you do it with diplomacy and honesty. Do not lead her on, do not give her false hope. You should do it sooner rather than later, so that she can move on and find another guy that might be a better match for her, especially if you care for her. The longer you put it off the more hurt she’ll be in the long run. Set her free, even if she doesn’t feel good about it initially, it is the right thing to do for you both.
You should be aware that Chinese women tend to be quite sensitive. So don’t be too straightforward when saying no. Casually mention little hints that build up to “I think we should just be friends”, or “you are a wonderful lady, but not really the one for me”. They all know they are competing against one another, so it should not be a shock to her. Be honest and she’ll have respect for being a man about it.
Use the Block List with cautions
Some gentlemen may choose to ignore and stop writing to a lady that they are no longer interested in. This is not advisable because the lady will be worried and anxious when they receive no reply from you. She may then send you one or more letters to ask for your explanation. This will not only hurt her feelings, but also cost you credits.
In case you have given up a relationship and do not wish to communicate further with a lady, you may also add her to your Block List. If you add a lady to your Block List, she will not be able to contact you again through EMF mail. The agency will be notified that you no longer wish to receive mail from the lady. Generally speaking, you are not advised to block a lady unless you seriously decide future communication is impossible. Whatever reason you give to block the lady, she will assume you are not polite and have no interest or patience for future contact. So, before you make the decision, please try to share your concern with the lady and hear her response. She will most likely understand and appreciate your honesty.