Dating online on ChnLove.com is no different to dating face-to-face. But dating Chinese girls can be a lot different to dating girls from other countries, especially your own country. To avoid culture clashes and saying the wrong things, I have compiled a few do’s and don’ts to help you excel and succeed when communicating with beautiful Chinese woman online:
Do be honest, humble and confident when chatting to her
Honesty is a quality that is highly respected in the Chinese society. A man of honor doesn’t lie and doesn’t abandon his responsibilities. If you wish to impress a Chinese girl you have to prove to her that you can be such a man of honor. And although you must show your confidence, you must strike a balance between being confident and humble. Don’t boast about yourself or tell lies. It will ruin their impression of you.
Do respect her culture and opinions
Learn about her culture – respectfully. Don’t assume that a woman of Chinese descent adheres to certain cultural traditions. If there are aspects to her habits, lifestyle, or culture that you’re not familiar with, ask her about them in an interested, supportive, and respectful way – get to know what matters to her. Never disrespect her culture or let her know that you think she is strange or she will be offended.
Do show interest in her family
Chinese women put a very high priority on family so showing interest in and bringing up conversation about that topic is a good hot button with her. It sure would boost the possibility of your success.
Do get to know her friends
A conservative Chinese woman has a small, close-knit group of friends, and most likely they’re conservative as well. Chinese women are all about intrigue, so if you create intrigue by becoming close to her close friends and loved ones, she’ll want you a whole lot more because it shows you can “exist” in her world. Be polite and open with them, and show her that you can be an asset to her social circle as well as a potential romantic partner.
Do be busy and have interesting activities around the clock
Being industrious and hard working is traditionally appreciated in Chinese cultures, and beyond that is generally impressive for all people. When the lady you’re interested in sees you’re always on the go, she will find it intriguing.
Do prepare a small gift for her
Flowers always have the magic to make your girl happy, so it’s highly recommended to bring her flowers. Stick with roses, lilies, or orchids. As dating is a serious thing for Chinese girls, it’s a good idea is to buy a vase with the flowers as this will represent a permanent gift that she can keep and she’ll know that you are serious about her.
Do behave like a gentleman
Chinese girls already give foreigners credit for knowing how to be gentlemen, so don’t miss the chance to prove this point. Give a hand to your girl to help her out of the taxi, open the door in front of her etc. That will definitely make her feel happy and proud.
Don’t use traditional dating moves
You shouldn’t try to date a Chinese girl. That means, don’t try the traditional dating moves. A dinner, movie, an occasional goodnight kiss and the no more calls from her. This comes with too much pressure, expectations and awkwardness. This is what every one else has been doing with her. Try something easier and less conventional. Something like just meeting for coffee, no big set up or preparations. She is less prepared and expectant. The atmosphere is less charged, more relaxed and thus more fun without the usual dating expectations. Besides, you want to be able to talk and get to know this person.
Don’t overdo it
Every guy tries to get a Chinese woman out on a date and impress her with detailed “rap” or speech moves. The truth is she’s heard it all before in many variations and versions. In this case less is more. The less you try to impress her, the more the Chinese girl is impressed. Try listening to her and getting her talk about herself. All you need is a small degree of interest. This throws her off guard as you are different and challenging, and Chinese girls like being challenged.
Don’t be pushy or overaggressive
You have to build intrigue and encourage your potential partner to come to you. Be available, but don’t be pushy or off-puttingly needy. Be confident and relaxed. It’s also important to read her cues. If she doesn’t want to discuss a certain part of her life or certain topics, don’t force her or there may be a negative effect.
Don’t be Mr. Goody-Goody
Don’t be Mr. Goody-Goody. Be a bit naughty – throw in unexpected and mischievous remarks to leave her wondering if you just said that. Don’t over-do it but do show her you are over impressed with her looks. Naughty statements and actions leave them wondering more about the kind of guy you are.
Avoid using strong perfume
Also, avoid using strong perfume. In most cases, a little goes a long way. Chinese girls’ noses are very sensitive and they might make paradoxical conclusions about your reasons to use strong fragrances.
These are just general rules. Of course, not all these rules apply to all Chinese women, as all people are different. So in additional to following these guidelines, do use your common sense and follow your instincts.